Wednesday, July 30, 2003


"One of the most radical discoveries [Gandhi] was to make in a lifetime of experimentation: in order to transform others, you have to transform yourself." -Eknath Easwaran in his biography of Mahatma Gandhi

"All that you are seeking is also seeking you," she writes. "If you sit still, it will find you. It has been waiting for you a long time. Once it is here, don't move away. Rest. See what happens next." Clarissa Pinkola Estes in her book Women Who Run With the Wolves.

"Each of us is free to stoke the crematory fires of Buchenwald or nurse lepers in an African hospital." -Albert Camus

"Know what you want and all the universe conspires to help you achieve it." -Paulo Cuelho

"Humanity has advanced, when it has advanced, not because it has been sober, responsible, and cautious, but because it has been playful, rebellious, and immature." -Tom Robbins

"I carry a torch in one hand
And a bucket of water in the other:
With these things I am going to set fire to Heaven
And put out the flames of Hell
So that no one worships God
for fear of hell or greed of heaven."

"Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed it is the only thing that ever has." -Margaret Meade

"The hero has to awaken the sleeping images of the future, which can and must come forth from the night, in order to give the world a new and better face." -Ernst Barlach

"The only thing that can save humanity in the 21st century is for women to take over the management of the world." -Gabriel Garcia Marquez

"It's antithetical to the definition of power in this culture that a person might derive power by service rather than control, but that's the essence of midwifery." -midwife Elizabeth Davis.

"Statistically, the probability of any one of us being here is so small that you'd think the mere fact of existing would keep us all in a contented dazzlement of surprise." -Lewis Thomas in his book Lives of a Cell

"Reasonable people adapt themselves to the world. Unreasonable people attempt to adapt the world to themselves. All progress, therefore, depends on unreasonable people." -George Bernard Shaw

"Pollution is nothing but resources we're not harvesting." -Buckminster Fuller

"Reality is what you can get away with." -Robert Anton Wilson

"The primordial fire that sparked millions of galaxies is the same fire that sparks the human creative impulse." -Cindy Spring, environmental activist

"One must have chaos within oneself if one is to be a dancing star." -Friedrich Nietzsche

"There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle." -Albert Einstein

"Before we can receive the unbiased truth about anything, we have to be ready to ignore what we would like to be true." -Ann Davies

our teachers

Friday, July 25, 2003

Thursday, July 24, 2003

On a lighter note, this is a really funny article about chain restaurants in middle America, inspired by the episode in The Bachelor where Andrew Firestone is sitting with that one blonde girl (who was the funniest one on the whole show), the one who was always drunk, and after a long awkward silence, she asks Andrew what his favorite chain restaurant is. He doesn't reply because he can't think of a chain restaurant because he probably doesn't go to chain restaurants, so she volunteers that her favorite is "The Olive Garden".....Dooce writes the whole episode much more cleverly than I ever could.....Free Refills on Breadsticks!
I am not one to normally post or rant about my political views, however I must express my disgust at being force-fed the grotesque images of Saddam's dead sons all over the internet today. I went into My Yahoo!, which is my personalized version of the newspaper, only to see a horrible close-up image of a dead body. I had mixed feelings; half of me was sad, because I do not feel happiness in seeing death and the other half was disgusted and frightened, because a dead body is pretty disgusting and frightening no matter who it is. I couldn't even keep the page open because the picture was all I could see. I guess I'll have to read my news tomorrow when the picture isn't there. (hopefully)

The way the media and Rumsfield chose to display those images was barbaric and distasteful. As Rumsfield said, "...making the pictures public would help convince frightened Iraqis that Saddam's rule was over and that far outweighed any sensitivities over showing the corpses. " CLICK HERE

What this is is a weak attempt at validating this war. They have to have something to show for it because they sure as hell haven't come up with any weapons of mass destruction. AND, how does Saddam's sons being dead convince us that Saddam's rule is over? Saddam isn't dead.

I don't think its necessary to post the picture of a naked carcass all over the internet and newspapers. Instead of posting the picture couldn't they give us an option to view it? Like "click here to see the dead body"? What about the little kids that surf the internet and look at the pictures on the newspapers. Are we telling them that its OK to kill if you have a really good reason? If someone is REALLY bad, then you can kill them. What is up with that? Do we not think of the consequences of our actions anymore?

Wednesday, July 23, 2003

This is great! This mayor has declared it against the law for any man to be outside their home on Thursday nights. Only women are allowed out on those nights. That's what I call Ladies Night.

Curfew for Men on 'Ladies' Night'

MADRID (Reuters) - The mayor of a southern Spanish town has declared Thursdays "ladies' night" and says he will fine any man found strolling about town in the evening, in an attempt to encourage them to stay at home and do the chores.

A spokeswoman for recently elected Andalusian regional party mayor, Javier Checa, said on Thursdays from October, the streets would be the preserve of the town's women and a five euro ($5.67) fine would be slapped on any man found out and about.

The men of Torredonjimeno, a town of 14,000 people in the olive-growing province of Jaen in Spain's southernmost region, were not impressed by the attempt to tie them to the kitchen sink.


Tuesday, July 22, 2003

Surf Fest 2003 - Saturday August 2

Its almost that time of year again in Manhattan Beach.

"The annual Surf Festival may be curiously named as it is primarily a whacky volleyball tournament, but it combines an outdoor athletics with a very loose atmosphere and an all-day/all-night party to make it the quintessential Manhattan Beach event.

World-class volleyball players, top college stars and disguised AVP pros don costumes as if it were Halloween. In addition to a loose attitude, they bring their incredible skills to a 6-man beach tournament. Among the teams were the "Lakers" in Afro wigs, French Maids, nurses and Abraham Lincolns."

The Deal is pretty much the same as last year. There will be three different options like last year:

Option A: Play all but 2 games; pays approx. $120

Option B: Play 2 games, pay approx. $100 (Only 7 slots)

Option C: Play no games but be part of the festivities, pay approx. $85.

Note: Approx. cost based on last year, may be less or more depending on how much sponsors step up and how many of decide to participate.

Option A is currently full.

Please email Eric Withee if you would like to participate this year.

Click here to see pictures from last year's event

Functional Alcoholism

From Saturday's Globe and Mail

Most of my friends are alcoholics. I say this without judgment or
emotion, simply as a fact.

Drinking alcohol is what we do for fun in a group. We drink more nights
than we don't and we generally drink to get drunk. And in patio season
the imbibing often starts before noon. We think of it as drinking to
relax, wind down, get the social juices flowing or go to sleep, but
really this is just a roundabout way of saying we are drinking to get
drunk. According to every addiction pamphlet quiz I've ever filled out
in a waiting room, this qualifies all of us as alcohol dependent.
I once told a psychotherapist that I crave a cold martini after a
stressful day at work and she told me I'd probably be better off
medicating myself with a mild antidepressant like Zoloft. But Zoloft
apparently dampens the libido, so I decided I'd rather drink. In much
the same way that other people join volleyball leagues, prayer circles
or attend illegal dogfights at three in the morning in underground car
parks, my friends like to get drunk and talk.

For years I flattered myself into believing our conversations were
interesting, but my one or two abstaining (read: pregnant) friends tell
me this is not the case. This is the dirty trick of alcohol: It
encourages you to engage in the very activities it prevents you from
doing as well as you could two hours ago, i.e. before you absorbed four
vodka tonics into your bloodstream. These include conversation, dancing,
sex and driving - usually in that order. The point is, the sloppy
conversations I have with my friends are interesting to me, which, all
my good friends assure me (tipsily), is really the only thing that

But before you dismiss us as a bunch of hopeless dipsomaniacs - we do
exercise restraint. Most of us are well aware of the serious
consequences of drinking far too much on a regular basis, particularly
in the morning and at lunch. We call this a "drinking problem," the
biggest problem being, of course, that in the long run you will have to
either quit drinking or flush your life down the toilet - two equally
depressing options which, if you think about it, are tantamount to the
same thing.

And so, as with most recreational pastimes, there are strict rules of
engagement when it comes to functional alcoholism. Anyone who repeatedly
breaks a rule will, over time, find him or herself socially ostracized,
for the only thing a bunch of functional alcoholics resent more than the
company of a pious non-drinker (pregnant chicks excluded) is the
presence of an out-and-out drunk. Don't take it personally; it's a Ghost
of Christmas Future thing.

The major rules of functionality are as follows:

1) No throwing up, or at least not in public. No one wants to see their
friends puke, but rest assured that if you do, a true friend will hold
your hair away from your face and get you a glass of water. This is a
pretty easy rule to abide by, as most regular drinkers have, by their
mid-20s, discovered which drinks agree with them and which don't. This
is why most seasoned functionals demur when the tray of Jagermeister
arrives - shots are for amateurs.

2) For the sake of your companions, try to remain at least marginally
coherent. If you find yourself pissed to the point of slurring or
repeatedly repeating a "sooo funny" story no one is laughing at, it's
time to start staggering bedward. The problem is less that you're too
drunk, more that you're too boring. Boring drunks are about as uplifting
as the smell of overboiled cabbage in the hallway of an old age home.

3) Don't regularly initiate or get drawn into physical fights. As
entertaining as violence might seem in the moment, remember: Bar fights
are tacky. Better to verbally abuse your enemy, or, better yet, make out
with his girlfriend on the dance floor, though admittedly this approach
can often backfire and lead to a bar fight in the end anyway.

4) Don't drink and work. Unless you happen to be a bus driver, the
problem with drinking on the job is not so much an issue of performance
as self-defeat. The whole point of being a functional alcoholic is that
you are able to function remarkably well under the influence of alcohol.
Most British journalists I've met insist that alcohol makes absolutely
no difference to the quality of their work, and I tend to believe them.
The real problem with drinking on the job is that it obliterates the
reason for stopping work at the end of the day - so you can have a drink
- thereby ensuring that if you keep it up, you will undoubtedly
degenerate into a raving workaholic.

5) Respect your TUDs - pick them carefully. The TUD (totally unnecessary
drink) is an experience most non-Muslim, non-Mormon folks can relate to.
Things are going so well at the party, why don't we just go out for last
call? Now that we've closed the bar, why don't we stop into that
underground dance hall on the way home with the $20 door fee and the
terrible bar band? Now that we're here, we really ought to buy a bottle
of moonshine from the old lady with the hockey bag in the corner. Mix it
with a can of Pepsi and presto - a perfect TUD!

A friend of mine recently remarked that the point of the TUD is for
functional alcoholics to see what it's like to be a real drunk for a
night without descending into a prolonged fit of debauchery - sort of
like addiction tourism. The downside is that the TUD is a complete
experience: The morning after you will find out what it's like to be a
non-functioning alcoholic with a hangover. Ain't pretty.

Thursday, July 17, 2003



I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.
Bill Cosby (1937 - )

What's money? A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and goes to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do.
Bob Dylan (1941 - )

The person who makes a success of living is the one who see his goal steadily and aims for it unswervingly. That is dedication.
Cecil B. DeMille (1881 - 1959)

Nothing succeeds like the appearance of success.
Christopher Lasch

There is only one success - to be able to spend your life in your own way.
Christopher Morley (1890 - 1957)

The man of virtue makes the difficulty to be overcome his first business, and success only a subsequent consideration.
Confucius (551 BC - 479 BC), The Confucian Analects

Real success is finding your lifework in the work that you love.
David McCullough (1933 - )

Success in business requires training and discipline and hard work. But if you're not frightened by these things, the opportunities are just as great today as they ever were.
David Rockefeller (1915 - )

Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life.
Dr. David M. Burns


The shaft of the arrow had been feathered with one of the eagle's own plumes. We often give our enemies the means of our own destruction.
Aesop (620 BC - 560 BC), The Eagle and the Arrow

He who has a thousand friends has not a friend to spare,
And he who has one enemy will meet him everywhere.
Ali ibn-Abi-Talib (602 AD - 661 AD), A Hundred Sayings

Above all things, never be afraid. The enemy who forces you to retreat is himself afraid of you at that very moment.
Andre Maurois (1885 - 1967)

Observe your enemies, for they first find out your faults.
Antisthenes (445 BC - 365 BC)

A wise man gets more use from his enemies than a fool from his friends.
Baltasar Gracian

I do not regret one professional enemy I have made. Any actor who doesn't dare to make an enemy should get out of the business.
Bette Davis (1908 - 1989), The Lonely Life, 1962

The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.
Carl Jung (1875 - 1961)

He hasn't an enemy in the world - but all his friends hate him.
Eddie Cantor (1892 - 1964)

Never explain--your friends do not need it and your enemies will not believe you anyway.
Elbert Hubbard (1856 - 1915)

You can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to frighten you.
Eric Hoffer (1902 - 1983)

Wednesday, July 16, 2003

I was reading in the July Issue of ELLE Magazine that there are (and have been) documented studies that prove that oral contraceptives (the pill) are really not so good for women.

To quote:
"While researchers know that oral contraceptives (OCs) can cause depression and loss of libido in some women, as with SSRIs, they're still not exactly sure why. The best guess is that it has something to do with testosterone. OCs work by supplying the body with enough synthetic estrogen and progesterone to mimic pregnancy, overriding a woman's own reproductive hormones and shutting down the ovaries. As a result, testosterone levels, which are mostly maintained by the ovaries, dip. I n a normally ovulating woman, only about 2 percent of testosterone is active,with the rest neutralized by sex-hormone binding globulin (SHBG), a protein the liver produces in response to estrogen levels. This gives women enough testosterone for a healthy sex drive but not so much that they develop male characteristics like facial hair. But the estrogen boost from the Pill creates even more SHBG than normal, binding up nearly all of a woman's active testosterone. Also, there's a testosterone surge before ovulation, which probably accounts for the upswing in libido many women experience midcycle (and it makes evolutionary sense for you to be most into it when you're most fertile). Women on the Pill miss out on that surge.

Some experts say clinicians don't tell patients about the possible emotional and sexual side effects of OCs for fear of creating the effect by mentioning it. Others, such as John Bancroft, the director of the Kinsey Institute and a coauthor of the above study, believe the mum's-the-word attitude about depression and the Pill is a blind spot borne out of admiration for the drug's many benefits. I think there's a mind-set that doesn't want to recognize the negative effects of OCs, Bancroft says. But it seems very sexist. There's no question that when anyone tests an OC for men, they ask, 'Will it affect men's sexuality?

...for single women on the Pill or for women who met their partner while on it, there's an even darker caveat: Emerging science suggests that OCs might actually change who we're attracted to and interfere with our evolutionary ability to choose an optimal genetic mate to reproduce with. It seems the natural ebb and flow of our hormones plays a role in the mating dance, and messing with Mother Nature could lead not only to an increased risk of infertility but also to women finding, when they go off the Pill, that they aren't as attracted to their mate as they once were.

Can you almost hear the collective scream of 10.4 million Pill users?"

Read the Entire Article Here

Monday, July 14, 2003

What is Premenstrual Syndrome (PMS)?

Premenstrual Syndrome (PMS) is now widely recognised as a medical condition that affects some women of childbearing age in many ways.
Premenstrual Syndrome is related to menstrual hormones and can present itself with physical and psychological symptoms.

There are over 150 symptoms associated with PMS and the number and type of symptoms suffered varies from person to person. The severity of the symptoms can also vary each month. Among the most commonly experienced are:

bloating, headaches, irritability
weight gain, skin problems, mood swings & depression
aggression, fatigue, breast tenderness
poor concentration, tearfulness, the feeling of being misunderstood

Others include:

tension, anger, anxiety, panic attacks, mental confusion, sinus problems, asthma, epilepsy, styes, acne, alcohol abuse, craving for sweet things, binge eating and backache.

Friday, July 11, 2003

what's with that halo hovering
above that thick skull
spare me
if I do say so - I think you're covering
'course there was nothing
could've prepared me

for the side effect of this dirty drug
the way you punish me and then you shrug

what's with that phone call, baby
it's like you're trying
just trying to crush me
do you feel stronger each time you push me, dear
did you tell your mom you carpet bombed
before you left here

and is it just the side effect of this dirty drug
or does each apology sound more like a shrug

are you at home now with your kitty cats
are you just at home now with the way that you act
do you split the rent there with all your secrets
or do you just pretend to all your friends
they're uninvited guests

yes and when you want it tidy tell me
can you still dispel me
sweep me neatly under the rug
does your conscience ever mention
the way that you treat me
or do you just fend it off with a ...

ani difranco - SHRUG

Wednesday, July 09, 2003


Britney Spears Says She's Not a Virgin
Tue Jul 8, 4:47 PM ET

LOS ANGELES (Reuters) - Pop princess Britney Spears (news) has admitted that she had sex with former boyfriend Justin Timberlake despite once vowing to remain a virgin until she wed.

...if you really want more....

Tuesday, July 08, 2003

Ani DiFranco is pretty much all I've been listening to the past 3 weeks or so, I often do that with my CDs...go for bouts on just one for weeks at a time until I put it back in its case for a bout a year. For some reason I never tire of Ani though.....

VIRTUE - Ani DiFranco

virtue is relative at best
there's nothing worse than a sunset
when you're driving due west
and i'm afraid that my love
is gonna come up short
there is no there there
i guess i'm scared
cuz i want to have good news to report
every time i come up for air

now i'm cruising through a chromakey blue sky
and i know that in an hour or three
the sun is gonna be in my eyes
and i know that sometimes all i can see
is how i feel
like the whole world is on the other side
of a dirty windshield
and i'm tryin to see through the glare
yes i'm struggling just to see what's there

the one person who really knows me best
says i'm like a cat
yeah the kind of cat that you just can't pick up
and throw into your lap
no, the kind that doesn't mind being held
only when its her idea
yeah, the kind that feels what she decides to feel
when she is good and ready to feel it

and now i am prowling through the backyard
and i am hiding under the car
i have gotten out of everything
ive gotten into so far
i eat when i am hungry
and i travel alone
and just outside the glow of the house
is where i feel most at home

but in the window you sometimes appear
and your music is faint in my ears

JUKEBOX - Ani DiFranco

in the jukebox of her memory
the list of names flips by and stops
she closes her eyes
and smiles as the record drops

then she drinks herself up and out
of her kitchen chair
and she dances out of time
as slow as she can sway
for as long as she can say
this dance is mine
this dance is mine

her hair bears silent witness
to the passing of time
tattoos like mile markers
map the distance she has gone
winning some, losing some
she says my sister still calls every sunday night
after the rates go down
and i can never manage to say anything right
my whole life blew up
and now its all coming down

and she says leave me alone
tonight i just wanna stay home
she fills the pot with water
she drops in the bone
she says, i've got a darkness that i have to feed
i've got a sadness
that grows up around me like a weed
and i'm not hurting anyone
i'm just spiraling in
as she closes her eyes
and hears the song begin again

she appreciates the phone calls
the consoling cards and such
she appreciates all the people
who come by and try to pull her back in touch
they try to hold the lid down tightly
and they try to shake well
but the oil and water
just want to separate themselves

she drinks herself up and out of her kitchen chair
and she dances out of time
as slow as she can sway
for as long as she can say
this dance is mine
this dance is mine
this dance is mine

Righteous Babe Records

Thursday, July 03, 2003

You must visit this site: Pandaemonium

It chronicles two friends' adventures at sea. They set out from San Francisco on March 22 and their goal is to sail around the world. It includes pictures and a journal as well as a map of their journey. If you want to receive email updates from them notifying you when they update the site you can do that as well. They also have a spot where you can text message them while they are sailing. Very cool.

Wednesday, July 02, 2003

Who is Chris

Chris : is Sun like BORG?
Chris Is Tan
Chris is hiding! Chris is hiding!
Chris is Thinking Ahead ... Fishing Instinctively
Chris showed he's a hands-on man when he treated Claire to a massage.
Chris is getting ready top leave Bali.
Chris is a grandpa!
Chris is booted out of I'mA Celeb jungle!
Chris is HOTT!!! What?!?!?
Chris is eating a sandwich behind the bar.
Chris is Untouchable.
Chris is on the Move Again...
Chris is a vicar. Almost all vicars are men. (probably) Chris is a man.

I was tired of the old format so I'm making some changes....any additional creative ideas are welcome.

will trade this awesome rock for a new piano

this rock is totally awesome... i found it the other day and it sparkles a lot... i thik its great I threw it at a wall and it didnt break... Normaly i would keep my rock and enjoy it myself but i need a piano badly so i am willing to trade.

Tuesday, July 01, 2003

Please don't change Kraft Mac-n-Cheese

Kraft to Revamp Products: Cites Obesity
Tue Jul 1,12:30 PM ET

By Deborah Cohen

CHICAGO (Reuters) - Kraft Foods Inc., the biggest U.S. maker of processed foods, on Tuesday said it would cap portion sizes, eliminate marketing in schools and reformulate some products as the food industry faces increasing legal blame for obesity and unhealthy eating trends.